Love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries of life: time. Marriage [committed relationship] is not the end of romance, it is the beginning.
~Esther Perel, Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic
Intimate relationships have the potential to catalyze some of the most profound growth and transformation in our lives. Often it’s our closest relationships that touch our most tender and wounded places, acting like mirrors that reflect the ways we’ve learned to love and relate to ourselves.
Maintaining a dynamic, loving and sexually stimulating relationship requires work, asking us to open our hearts even wider, learn how to manage our reactivity, and bring awareness to woundings from our past that still cause us to contract and protect ourselves in relationship today.
In counseling I encourage couples to become curious of their dynamic and of one another, provoking exploration and play, while working together to create a safe place for calm, open and honest communication. Throughout our sessions I aim to hold a balance in building intimacy and connection while honoring the importance of independence and sovereignty in relationship. I believe that, in combination with a solid foundation of trust, the right amount of distance between partners can create enough spark and interest for continued passion and true intimacy over time.
I welcome all types of partners and couples, including inter-racial, same sex, heterosexual and poly or open relationships.
There is a Candle in Your Heart…
There is a candle in your heart, ready to be kindled.
There is a void in your soul, ready to be filled.
You feel it, don’t you?
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all
the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
— Jalāl ad-Dīn Rumi
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, #113253